Patterns of Communication

Ever wonder why your communication often causes your relationships to end up in the ditch with no way out?

Did you know that there are patterns of communicating that can elevate relationships to levels of respect, love and compassion?

Are you aware of the key ways of interacting that provide the foundation for healthy relationships?

Take a look at the following questions.  They are the road map to understanding how to have loving, respectful and trusting relationships.  How many are you able to do?
   

·        Can you focus on appreciating others instead of what is upsetting about them?        

·        Can you easily forgive?

·        Can you stay in the present and not talk about others past failures and mistakes?

·        Does your behavior match the words you express? 

·        Can you share about yourself- even if others reject, feel hurt or become angry with you?  

·        Can you stay loving and non-judgmental?

·        Instead of complaining, can you address issues in an empowering way that solves the issue? 

·        Can you welcome others bringing up a problem?

·        Can you listen well?                     

·        Can you let go of resentment and anger and not direct these emotions at others?     

·        Instead of complaining, can you address issues in an empowering way that solves the issue?                

·        Can you address problems as they arise- in the moment- instead of saying “You always” or “You never”? 

·        Can you use “I” statements and not “you” statements?    

·        Can you argue so that both persons experience a win-win?                                                       

·        Can you share feelings- even feelings that may cause conflict- in a loving way?                   

·        Can you not resort to mind-reading nor expect others to read you mind?                              

·        In an argument, can you focus on making peace rather than on being be right or winning?  

·        Can you be assertive and not aggressive?  Can you be assertive and not passive?  Can you be assertive and not passive-aggressive?

·        Can you say what you mean and mean what you say? 
 

·        Can you address issues before your feelings build up and therefore have more of a possibility to lovingly address the issue? 

·        Can you express your opinion even if it is different than others?       

·        Can you share the talking space so that others can equally share/talk?

·        Do you enjoy sharing with others?    

·        Can you treat others as equals vs. treating others as superior or inferior to you?                             

·        When you argue, can you stop before losing control?

·        Can you remain open in responding to others anger?  

·        Can you be straightforward and honest vs. manipulative and not trustworthy?

·        Can you share freely and not withhold information?    


·        Can you talk about important issues instead of superficial ones?     

If you answered any of the above questions with a yes, you have the building blocks needed for loving, respectful and compassionate communication.


If you answered any of the above questions with a no, there is a pattern of communication that needs to be addressed. 

If addressed, your relationships will become more loving.        I guarantee it!